Did you know that softening is one of the greatest paths to true inner strength?
And yes, you read those words correctly…
…softening leads to strength.
This belief is certainly not what society wants us to adopt and accept, however for a woman who presents herself to the world through her flowing, feminine essence, one of our greatest superpowers is in the softening.
Softening puts you on a plush path to opening, and opening is like the budding flower blossoming into full pedals of feminine power.
Learning to soften our body, our voice and our mental chatter are 3 feminine keys for how to soften.
Maybe you can relate to my previous beliefs of thinking that strength came from being hard, self-assured and forthright.
A bit closed even.
I was taught..
How strength was equated to the amount of intensity in our efforts and actions.
How much can you push every fiber of your being forward to get as many things done in a certain period of time? How much can you produce?
How strong and assertive can you be in the corporate work-place, a field dominated by men and masculinity?
Sound like anyone you know?
It felt like whenever the word strength or success came up, a picture of a really macho, masculine man would appear in my mind, and I would funnel all of my actions through this image.
I didn’t hear strength or success in the same sentence as femininity, and the word softness was on a different page altogether!
If anything, my perspective on the world was that strength meant hardness and being tough.
My poor body and voice would then carry that strength and rigidity in my communication with people, friends and lovers.
The more I lived life like this, worked like this and conducted relationships like this, the more pain I felt inside, and the more “separate” I felt and the less like my authentic self.
The more I lived life like this…the less I attracted truly masculine men toward me…in fact, usually the opposite…but that’s a story for another day.
I invite you to watch this weeks video: 3 Keys For “How To Soften Into Your Feminine Power” where I answer a question from a subscriber about “How To Soften The Voice…”
Pro tip! This one goes a loooong way when it comes to communicating with men in relationships too.